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Stop listening to your head

David Sherry
2 min read

And start listening to your heart.

I've gone off the deep end, haven't I?
You're thinking, "OK David, sure, Live Laugh Love, and all that shit."

But entertain the idea with me for a second.
Think about a difficult choice you have to decide on right now in your life.

My bet is that you actually know what decision to make.

Sure, you rationalize and debate the choices.
You make a list of the pros and cons. You switch back and forth and back and forth.

"I should do this, I shouldn't."

"I should move, I should stay."

"I should quit! I should stay."

The bigger the decision, the more you rationalize why it's a complex decision. The more complex you make the decision, the harder it becomes to decide.

"This is complex, be careful to make the right call!"

This is what your brain tells you.

But all along, in the background, you've got a voice telling you what you want to do; your gut, your heart, your subconscious, whatever you want to call it. If you were to flip a coin about the decision, while it's spinning in the air, you would have a gut feel for which you are hoping it lands on.

The decision part, as it turns out is actually simple.

Here's the real problem: You know the answer, but you have fear about what that decision means. You're scared to fully face the decision.

Or what it implies.
Or what you have to do to follow through with it.
Or who you have to be, after making it.

See, decisions are hard to act on, typically not so hard to decide on.

So, what we really need to do when we're having a tough time deciding something is to hone in on our skill of listening to our gut. And that means quieting the thinking, analytical part of your brain. Trust me, this isn't easy. I've been trapped under the weight of the logical-mind for some time. Its complexities can trick you into feeling productive, when the reality is, it weighs you down. Once you see this, you can free yourself to move quickly on decisions that are weighing you down.

So to make a tough decision, you'll want to find a way to listen to yourself more, and less to that logical brain of yours.

To help you get there, I find that exercise or relaxing hobbies are best.

Here's a sample list:
Long walks
Head to the woods
Hot Shower
Golf (who am I kidding I hate golf)

Free yourself to make the decision by thinking about it less.

The real error is not that we're making bad decisions. The real error is the lengthy process of going back and forth for days, months, or years when you already know the answer.

I'm working to shorten that timeline.

P.S. Quick Quiz for you

Does this argument make sense logically, or does it make sense in your gut?

Making Good Decisions